tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post5808038701138495946..comments2023-04-07T04:33:49.773-07:00Comments on CODA Giving Girl: Challenged...GGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03638098556879627693noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post-41775081596621166922009-03-24T21:05:00.000-07:002009-03-24T21:05:00.000-07:00Thanks all. Great advice. One of the guys came o...Thanks all. Great advice. One of the guys came over last night, even though I was sick, and then texted me again today! (I ignored him today, I was busy). I think Senorita got it right. Crap/leftovers. But T also got it right. I need to stop judging myself. If I want it and ask for it, then I need to go for it and accept it for what it is and move on when I want to. Mike, good point. I can stop anytime right now. If I was hitting up a different random stranger every night, then I'd be worried. Far from it! I can still count my number of lovers on my fingers - no need to move to toes yet. ;)<BR/><BR/>P.S. Senorita, I think the gangbang guy is just trolling. I guess he figures the more people he invites (he even had a link with "party" pics!), the more likely he is to get someone who is interested. Not me!GGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03638098556879627693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post-88766647103097965692009-03-24T09:05:00.000-07:002009-03-24T09:05:00.000-07:00It's only a problem when it's no longer optional f...It's only a problem when it's no longer optional for you. Please be safe and careful.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641318104807962051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post-55106183403256963312009-03-23T21:02:00.000-07:002009-03-23T21:02:00.000-07:00Enjoy yourself. And try not to judge yourself so h...Enjoy yourself. And try not to judge yourself so harshly. YOU are the only one judging, honey. Its all in how you're carrying yourself through this. Accept where you are and don't question it.<BR/><BR/>Now... can I follow the same advice?https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post-5382817283741099622009-03-23T20:55:00.000-07:002009-03-23T20:55:00.000-07:00I also think you should take down the big four let...I also think you should take down the big four letter word in your title. It's really demeaning to yourself, and I really think it's making you feel worse about yourself. I wouldn't classify you as one, and after writing these words, you'll eventually believe it and drag yourself down.Senoritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075972193214414769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7948293962244938814.post-10041666613283198462009-03-23T20:47:00.000-07:002009-03-23T20:47:00.000-07:00You wrote:"I just don't know how to find that agai...You wrote:<BR/>"I just don't know how to find that again. Someone who I enjoy being around who will take me out, have fun, have sex with me, but not expect the world and a commitment Right.This.Minute!"<BR/><BR/>I went through this stage after I broke up with my ex, and I wanted the same thing. But the truth is, is it is very, very difficult to find a FWB situation like this. I told this to my guy friend who laughed in my face after telling him about this seemingly perfect FWB situation. If the man is treating you well, he will want a relationship. If he wants a FWB situation, he will most likely treat you like crap, or treat you nicely the first time until he gets sex, then he treats you like leftovers after.<BR/><BR/>I don't think you need to enjoy being alone like others seem to tell you. But I do think you may need to take some time off for a month or two, because it doesn't sound like you're having fun right now.<BR/><BR/>There is nothing wrong with you needing a sex fix, but I honestly don't think you can truly work on yourself while getting a sex fix. Because most guys in FWB situations will either treat you like crap or want to move into relationship zone, neither of which gives you an opportunity to work on yourself.<BR/><BR/>If I am coming off with the wrong tone, I don't mean to. I can relate to your post.<BR/><BR/>I have never heard of a gangbang situation and find that highly disturbing. I couldn't imagine someone who would agree to that.Senoritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075972193214414769noreply@blogger.com